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Life After Redundancy

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If the worst has happened and you've lost your job, follow life coach Liz Wilde's six positive steps

1. Reality is never as scary as the stories we tell ourselves. The fear that grips your stomach as you picture yourself losing your home and living in poverty for the rest of your life is just that. Fear. So each time you catch yourself on a negative spiral (and you will, constantly), stop your mind from freefall by asking yourself a simple question - Is that true? Do I really know I’m never going to work again? How can I be sure I will lose my home? Then turn it around…

2. Instead of wallowing in your fears, change your perspective by asking yourself another question - What else is possible? This immediately takes you from, “I can’t (cope, pay the bills, breathe…)” to, “How can I…?”. A much more powerful place to be. How can I begin looking for another job? How can I take steps to feel more financially secure? Ask your brain a “How can I?” question and it automatically starts looking for answers.

3. The world is what you think it is, and it’s almost impossible to stay positive when you’re absorbing daily media scare stories. There’s no denying we’re currently facing financial difficulties, but a huge amount of fear is being created by the media. What we focus on increases, so ditch the negativity and go on a temporary media diet. Avoid any newspaper story, TV or radio show discussing the ‘credit crunch’, and gently side-step doom and gloom conversations. Notice how much better you feel.

4. Before approaching a potential new employer, boost your self-image by creating a mental ‘success movie’. Make a list of all your career highlights, including every piece of positive feedback you can remember. Then a little like the football highlights on TV, cut and paste together a two-minute short film of your key moments. Practice running through the movie in your mind until it flows, and then press play whenever you need a shot of confidence.

5. You have suffered a loss, so be kind to yourself.  Our primal emotional needs are belonging and territory, both of which can be threatened by losing your job. You are no longer part of a team, and you may also feel you have lost your power and identity. It’s natural to feel angry and sad about your sense of helplessness, so allow yourself time to recover. And resist the urge to take it personally. Losing your job does not make you are a less worthwhile person.

6. Ironically, many people end up seeing their redundancy as a blessing in disguise. If you’ve been quite literally making the best of a bad job, now is the chance to create changes. You may think exploring other options will just make you feel more disorientated, but only two things can happen. Either you’ll find that what you’re doing now isn’t nearly so bad once you compare it to what else is out there (and therefore, appreciate it more), or you’ll find something that suits you far better.

 

 

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